Is it difficult for you to maintain your integrity in a world that’s constantly changing? It’s hard to know what to change and what to hold on to. Sometimes it takes a crisis to differentiate between those who choose honesty as a core value from others who think of it merely as a public relations convenience. Integrity is an antidote to chaos because it increases self-respect. High self -respect creates order in your life because it is the one constant that you can depend on when everything around you is in turmoil.
Integrity has practical advantages because it saves you time and energy. According to M. Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled, people “don’t have to construct new lies to cover old ones. They need waste no effort covering tracks or maintaining disguises. And altimately they find that the energy required for the self discipline of honesty is far less than the energy required for secretiveness.” Thomas J. Stanley in his book, The Millionaire Mind, interviewed 733 self made millionaires and asked them to rate their most important secrets to success. Honesty was rated number one. Integrity empowers you. In The Seat of the Soul, Gary Zukav states, “When we align our thoughts, emotions and actions with the highest part of ourselves, we are filled with enthusiasm, purpose and meaning….This is the experience of authentic power.” You can then use the almost unlimited energy of your higher self to achieve difficult goals. Think of a difficult job that you did well. Feel your pride. Don’t you feel a surge of motivation and energy to use in new situations?
Integrity is a sign of personal strength. Weak people are the ones most likely to resort to unscrupulous actions. Weak people realize that their inadequate abilities don’t measure up, and that they can’t compete by being smarter than the competition. So they try to achieve their goals with dishonesty instead. Great harm is done to any industry where they operate. Adopting honesty and integrity requires commitment. Some like the idea of integrity but discard it during tough times. Others can maintain their integrity through even the most turbulent times. Why? Because they have adopted certain habits. These habits enable you to not only survive but actually thrive during chaotic times.
- Focus on what is important. We live in a diverse society, which means that others behave according to many different styles.
- Without adequate understanding, these styles can seem threatening. Learn to differentiate between basic value differences and just
- differences in style. With style differences, go with the flow but stand firm with values conflicts. You will get burned out if you let every minor difference upset you. Prioritize and decide what issues are most important to you.
- Assess the motivation of others. If someone behaves in a questionable way, ask yourself if inadequate education was the cause or was there malicious intent. Suppose someone neglected to report information to a physician. It makes a difference whether it was an oversight due to poor organizational skills or if the information was deliberately withheld. Each circumstance requires a different response.
- Be patient and persistent with yourself as well as with others. It takes time for people to change so you need a long-term approach.
- Two ways to support change are giving specific directions and being generous with praise. Be specific and clarify exactly what you would like changed. If you want to change something about yourself, define your goal and create an action plan. If you want other people to change, ask them to summarize the request in their own words to be sure that they understand. Expect some mistakes at first and be willing to be a coach. Remember to praise yourself as well as others because we all enjoy approval. People usually respond to praise by renewing their efforts even with difficult tasks.
Cultivate a network of good people
- Few people thrive in isolation because most of us need supportive people around us. Spend as much time as possible around otherpeople who have integrity. You not only motivate and support each other, but also will have a dependable group of people to call upon.
Until next time….Yours in health and healing,